Being a mom and an entrepreneur can be incredibly difficult and I should know because I'm a mom of two little girls under the age of five. I have a couple different businesses and I'll tell you that it can be stressful at times. BUT it’s possible to separate mom life from work life!
Step #1 is making sure your work isn't getting sloppy or becoming mediocre. A lot of times I will be trying to multitask the kids with my work and that’s where it starts to suffer. I'm not being a great mom and I'm not doing great at work. I remember when I had my first child, I hired a nanny and I remember thinking that I could hear her crying. She would come knocking at the door, she'd hear my voice and I wasn't feeling like a great mom and I definitely wasn't getting great work done. So be careful you're not doing that!
Step #2 is to make sure to ignore everyone's commentary. I read this quote that said “other people's opinion of you is none of your business.” I hope you take that to heart because everybody's going to have an opinion on if you're at home you should be watching your kids or you should be with them a certain amount of times or you can't take that vacation or that business trip. So just make sure it fits right for you and your family, that's all that matters.
Step #3 is to set boundaries and a schedule. I’m huge when it comes to my Google Calendar. I'm a big online calendar fan and the first thing you need to do is figure out when are you going to have the me time, the work time, and then time with your kids and your family. Here’s a little insight into what my day looks like:
I wake up bright and early at 5:00 a.m. and the biggest thing for me is I want to wake up before the kids wake up so I've got that time for me to get my day situated, I get to work and just do my morning routine up until about 7:00 a.m.
Then the kids are up and I have to get them ready. It's time for me to shut off work stuff, whatever I was doing and really be involved with the kids so we get that time. My oldest one is heading to kindergarten next year so that schedule will change a little bit, but during the day while they're gone, that is the time I can focus on my business. Now it might start to feel a little selfish or I should be with the kids more, I should be doing this while they're little but understand that the second they get home from school or from daycare it's back to being mom and kid time.
So computers closed, no more work for the day and if you want to know what I’m doing throughout the day while I'm working…well, what I'll tell you is the morning is reserved for proactive work and the afternoon is for reactive work. So what does that mean?
Proactive work is where I get all of the stuff done, the most important things that I need to do in my business. I always say it’s anything that moves the needle. So that might look like creating content, batching certain things for video, online courses, any of that.
Reactive work is checking email, client calls, team meetings, etc. So proactive in the morning, reactive in the afternoon and you will absolutely get so much more done than you're used to.
Step #4 is location. I never realized how important location was. I love that I work from home and I usually work on a laptop and I realized that when I work on a laptop, I start to work everywhere in the house. The kids playroom, the bedroom, the kitchen table and I realized that having a dedicated space where I call time for me to work is absolutely the best thing that has happened. So when I walk into my office, it's go time. It's time for me to get to work and when I walk out of that office, that's the time that the work shuts off so I can actually play and engage and hang out with my children. If you follow these 4 steps you will create an AMAZING balance between work life and mom life.